Why similarity in thoughts and background is important for the success of relationships. 

 To be honest, I actually like similarity. What does it mean to be similar? Similarity means that with a look from you, I can read your thoughts. The similarity means that you and me won't quarrel because of buying bags and cosmetics, playing games, etc. The similarity means that you will always have a common topic, and there won't be the usual gap after the confession of affection. Similarity means that you will always have something in common, and there will not be the usual period of ambiguity after confession. The similarity means that when you quarrel, see the things you like, the first thing you want to share is each other, where also the cold war goes on. I'm not saying that complementary is bad, I just, feel more comfortable with similarity. Why? Because complementary means that you have to allow yourself to accept each other's flaws and tolerate each other. 

Many people say, what's so hard about that, like me of course you can do it. I used to think that was the case, but then I came to realize that it's really hard to do. You tend to like someone because you like certain good things about me. Before you are not together, all you think about is how good he is. But after you get together, you will suddenly realize that he is not as perfect as you thought. What is complementary? It is you who are patient ta angry easily, you are romantic ta unintelligible, you are introverted ta cheerful, it is you who have no opinion ta bold and thoughtful. 

 It's like the saying, "I like the moon, but the moon runs to me, is that still called the moon"? It may not be the right word to use, but I hope you can probably understand what I mean.  And then you're together. You'll find that ta's strengths, it turns out, are not just strengths. ta is easily angered. You have to be careful when you talk to him, so that you don't make him angry without knowing what to say. You've got a good temper and you're tired. ta doesn't understand. You carefully prepared a gift for the ta, picked on the anniversary to give the ta, you are full of joy that the ta will be happy, but the ta asked you why you want to buy a gift, more serious, will ask you why you spend money, have this money is better to do something else. 

The first thing you need to do is to ask for a gift, and the second thing you need to do is to ask for a gift. The first thing you need to know is that you can't afford to go to a party without being there. The first thing you need to do is to get out of the house and go to a party. So you started to go out occasionally, and then went out for longer and longer periods of time. You'll be able to get a lot more out of your car than you can afford. You don't make up your mind about anything, and ta thinks you're so cute, so he made a decision for you and told you that he would help you make a decision later. 

Gradually, you discover that the two of you have become a one-man show for me. For example, if you want to eat western food, you tell ta, but ta says, let's go to a barbecue, and you always struggle with regrets anyway. Some people may say that the examples I gave are too extreme. But the examples I'm talking about even if magnified many times is something, and the shallower degree in complementary is simply commonplace. This is when you look at me and you realize that I am is no longer so shining in your heart. 

A lot of people can't survive this long period of adjustment, and I'm no exception. Because it is really sad that everything was so good at the beginning, why did it become like this later? That's why I now feel that it's hard to complement each other, but similarities are really comfortable. Because of the similarity, you are gentle together, indecisive together, think together, prepare for a romantic holiday together, rarely reveal your feelings but understand each other. 

Because of your similarities, isn't it the happiest to do what you like with the person you like? Both of you, you are the happiest. Because of the similarity, when you try to open up new perceptions, ta can often do it in sync with you, no sooner, no later. Because of the similarity, you and ta will always be the closest lovers, even if you are forced to stop being together for some things, you will be the most understanding friends. Because of the similarity, you want to do the ta will often understand support, will not appear not to understand and to you pointing the situation. Because of the similarity, you understand each other more, understand each other's preferences, will not touch each other's minefield, reduce many, many unnecessary quarrels. Because of the similarity, the two souls can resonate and bring the heart palpitations. Because of the similarity, you will never be alone. So, similarity, really beautiful. 

 In my own experience, the two need to be both, but complementary should be more than similar. What's similar is the core, the soul, a tacit symbiosis after a long time together. It is to be based on the complementary exterior. What is complementary is more of a personality, a point of mutual attraction. The reason why men and women come together to fall in love is because the other is mysterious and inquisitive about each other, the other has a very different point in me that attracts me, and I want to enter his or her spiritual world to understand him or her, to accompany him or her, to give the other the temperature I can give. Imagine, can two jugs of warm swallowed water have chemistry? Of course not. What about a pot of boiling water and a pot of cold water? Mutual warmth is just right (probably not the right example, but trying to get that across). Interesting souls are needed in life, and only a mutual attraction of personalities can arrive at a soul-soothing coexistence.